How should we make new friends?
I am a shy individual who masks it with bravado and a quip. New social situations makes my underpants an uncomfortable shade of brown. But it’s good to make connections with new people. Makes the village more welcoming and hospitable.
Here’s how I propose to do it: Everyone needs to carry a novel.
In a new social situation the novel is a means of beginning a conversation. We can talk about the book, what we liked, didn’t like, read aloud our favourite passages.
And when we’re finished, we can swap the book with the person we are talking with, read it and return it when done, or pass it on to the next new person we meet.
And it would be even better if it’s our own story in the book we give away. That way we must trust the other person to treat our book with respect and kindness.
And there should be blank pages for the new person to add in how we met, what we talked about, what the day was like. Then we can pass it on, receive the new person’s book and add our own details. If we happen to cross paths again, we can catchup on what has happened.
Imagine all the people’s stories we could read.
This is how we should make new friends. What do you reckon?